Having a bad day? Week? Month? It happens. Things can be difficult, stressful, or down right irritating. Everybody goes through hard times. There’s this thing I say when I, or someone close to me is going through the turbulence: tomorrow doesn’t have to be the best day, it just has to be a better day. Doesn’t sound so hard anymore does it? And its not. Actually having a good day can be pretty easy. All it takes is wanting it. Flipping that switch and approaching it with a bit of determination. Here are ten ways that you can change your approach, make tomorrow better, and start feeling good again:
10. Wake up ready for the day
They say that if you want a good day, you need a good nights sleep. Sure, it helps, but it’s not necessary. You can start any day. Up all night stressing about something important, or taking care of sick children, or in an argument, or simply couldn’t sleep. It’s fine. 9 hours of sleep, or 3 hours of sleep, wake up and tell yourself that today is going to be a ‘better’ day. Put a little kick in your step and don’t let anything hold you back. Being tired is temporary and will pass after a nap or a good nights sleep. Being happy will cause ripples through your life and lives around you.
Corny, cheesy, I know. But have you ever tested the power of a smile for yourself. Like if you go into the coffee shop each morning tired, busy, or distracted, try going in there happy and positive and sharing a smile with whoever you interact with. It is a completely different experience, and it feels good. Smiling is pretty natural. So why not use it today to be, and share, in positivity, and get some of those good feelings working for you. Smile, you’re a lot prettier when you smile, share it and make an impact on other peoples day.
8. Random acts of kindness
Random acts of kindness have a powerful way of changing someone else’s day and making you feel great at the same time. But it is often misinterpreted. You do not have to go out of your way, or pull cash from your wallet to do something randomly kind. It doesn’t have to be so complicated. Holding the door for someone, giving up that parking spot, or even a simple compliment, are all that is needed. If your conscious about being kind these little things add up quickly. So no, you don’t have to pay for a strangers bill, or bring care packages to the homeless. I mean you can, it’s super nice. But on a day to day basis, it’s about being ready to do the kind thing, big or small.
Kind of like number 8, helping is being ready to do the right thing. If someone is on the side of the road with car problems, stop and help. If a co-worker is having a hard time, help. If your neighbor is painting his deck today, go over and help. It has become harder and harder for people to ask for help. We have been conditioned to think we should do everything ourselves and avoid putting anyone out of their way. But, when you get a helping hand it makes things easier. No one is going to ask you for help, they may even try to turn you down. But help out where you can and do it for you, not to get anything in return.
6. Change your perspective/Be a good person
Speaking of conditioning. Ugh, the world has turned us into something ugly. Judgemental and egotistical. It’s okay. We have been conditioned by society to judge people, or look down on certain people. Those thoughts may enter your head, and it’s not your fault. You’re not a bad person. The first thought in your head is the way you’ve been trained to think, the second one is what defines you. So, if you think someone’s clothes are dumb, or they must be x type of person. Your next thought could be, no, I’m sure they are fantastic. And there’s a little trick to help you along. If you’re feeling judgmental or angry with someone imagine yourself giving them a hug, and you’d be surprised how much that can change your perspective.
5. Make a kids day
If you have your own kids, a small cousin, or a niece or nephew, or even your best friends kids, build some memories. Children have such a positive and resilient attitude, they are such fun to be around. Doing something to make a child feel special can do wonders for your mood. Kids are easy, think back to when you were young and what made you feel special. Maybe it’s learning something new, doing a really cool craft, or even just having someone listen to you for a bit. It’ll make you feel good, but more importantly it will show them that they are special to you.
4. Show someone you care
Take some flowers over to mom’s house. Call that aunt that you haven’t talked to in a while. Take your sister out for lunch. Remind people that you are there, and they are important to you. The longer it has been since you’ve connected with that person, the better it will feel. It’s important to take that extra step for someone you care about. Most importantly, if you are holding onto any resentment towards anybody, it’s time to start letting that stuff go. Look forward, never back, and build relationships for a future, not a past.
3. Make a loved one feel special
Don’t forget about those closest to you. Especially a significant other. ‘Happy wife, happy life’, as they say. Give them the love they deserve. It can be small like a compliment, or throwing their towel in the dryer to warm it up while they shower. But I recommend something deeper, from the heart. Get a card, sit with it for 20 minutes and think about what makes them valuable and unique before you even start. Then write, truly pour your heart out about all the special reasons why you love them. There is a reason you have chosen to share this life with them and you could both use a reminder on how meaningful that is. This also works for a parent, a friend, or anyone that is most special to me.
2. Do something for you
There is no one more important in your life than yourself. It is okay to do something for you and love thyself. Go for a run, write that story out of your head, or cook what you want for dinner. Do whatever little things that bring joy into your day. It doesn’t matter what it is, how significant or insignificant. You are worth it!
1. Be proud
As you lay in bed at the end of this beautiful day, be proud of what you have done and how you feel. Whether you did all of these things, one thing off this list, any thing that made you, or someone else feel good, or none of that at all. Everyday we accomplish something, even if it’s being in bed all day to get over a cold. Be satisfied with what you’ve done, and who you are. You are a special person and you deserve to feel good about yourself.
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